“Gay” is not an insult…

For me, being called gay has never been an insult. I don’t worry too much about what people say, as much as what they do. And being somewhat physically aggressive myself, I have (in the past) sometimes welcomed the opportunity to stomp some manners and sense into those who believe themselves on a higher moral ground. But there are other, and better ways, to handle such situations as the video below shows.

Cole Strona from G.J + Iziki + Cole talks with Equality Hawaii’s Mathew Bellhouse-King about being bullied, getting called “gay” and how music can make a difference.

“Gay” is not an insult… from Equality Hawaii on Vimeo.


Love Me As I Am – Gay Nonfiction

Love meLove Me As I Am is an anthology of 24 biographies and letters written by gay men as they reflect on the childhood experiences that shaped their lives. These experiences are something which many gay men can relate to. The stories share the common threads of invalidation, being overwhelmed by shame and the painful (but worthwhile) journey to self-acceptance.

All profits gained through sales of the book are donated to Diversity Role Models — a UK charity tackling homophobia through education.

From Amazon. Learn more here.

Love Me As I Am – gay men reflect on their lives from Little Red Shoes on Vimeo.

Wake Up Call

Sometimes a wake up call is necessary.

‘WAKE UP CALL’ from Tyler Berget

When fear grows fat on homophobia

We often talk about the changing landscape in LGBT issues. A lot has changed, but there’s also quite a bit that hasn’t. One of the hardest things for me when I see injustice based on homophobia is controlling my anger. I have, unfortunately, been a witness to the extremes of homophobia and it is no small feat for me to control myself when it materializes in front of me.

The talk below about fighting with nonviolence, is something I believe in wholeheartedly and I thought I would share it with you..


Blood is Thicker – LGBT Cinema

When a man’s gay brother is murdered, all his beliefs are tested.

blood is thicker A poignant movie about what happens when a family fractures, when a gay child runs because he feels he has no acceptance at home, and how his murder rips his family apart even further. Blood is Thicker is in production now but you can see the trailer below.   [Read more…]

A Voice for LGBT Country Music Fans

LGBT country music Maybe you’ve heard of Drake Jensen. Maybe not. Maybe, like me, you’ve never been a fan of country music and equated it with rednecks and bigotry. But there are new voices in the country music scene, and there are old voices dispelling the idea that all of country music is anti-LGBT.

I can’t quite remember where I bumped into him on the web, but I had a listen and I was convinced that I need to give country another listen. And maybe I need to stop equating the music with the people who listen to it and claim it as their own rebel yell to ugliness.

Drake’s brand new video (below) told me it was exactly that time. Check it out.

Hop Against Homophobia

Hop against HomophobiaInternational Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

Welcome, today is the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, and to celebrate hundreds of authors, publishers, and individuals have an extraordinary blog hop going on. There are prizes, information, and many personal stories about what homophobia is and what it does. All of this is a concerted effort to bring awareness to the plague of homophobia and hopefully, to one day bring it to an end. You will find links at the bottom of this post to direct you to other posts from blogs around the world. Enjoy, and help us spread the word. Don’t forget to leave a comment for a chance to win an e-book copy of my JUST released new gay romance novel, Cold.

The Hidden Aspect of Homophobia – A Personal Experience

I remember a young man I was dating from a conservative Christian family who lived in a small town in Alabama. Both his mother and sister knew he was gay. They loved him dearly but… [Read more…]

LGBT Music Monday – Sacha Sacket

Sacha Sacket is a member of the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles.  He wrote this song in tribute to Jamey Rodemeyer, a 15 year old bisexual teen who took his own life. From Iran, and both bullied and harassed himself, Sacket’s song is a haunting tribute not only to Jamey but to all the youth we have lost.


The other side of Homophobia on Twitter

I’ve been on Twitter for almost two years now, tweeting away about LGBT Youth, books, music, and all manner of things generally LGBTQ related.  When the news about the new site that tracks the use of homophobic slurs hit the Twittersphere this week I had already seen it (and tweeted about it) before it became a huge news item on the LGBT circuit. I watched as many of the major LGBT blogs/feeds spoke about how depressed, saddened, and disturbed they were. I also noted how more than a few people repeated that sentiment on their own feeds, some of them had just a few friends and followers, and some had thousands.

What did the big news sites fail to report?

There is, and has been, just as much lgbtq-positive and anti-homophobic sentiment on twitter as there is homophobia. (See feed below.) [Read more…]

If you are not the one voice

If you are not the one voice
for those with no voice,
there is only silence,
and their endless suffering…